The girls came home with a birthday party invitation recently. Their friend's party was on the same day as the brunette twin was supposed to go to see a musical production with the school choir.
The brunette twin was mad. She really wanted to go to the party. I told her that she already committed to the school choir outing, so she was going to that. Then the blond twin pulled an Ace card. She said, "Mom, there are only a few girls coming."
It is one thing about having twins that I didn't think about until they started going to birthday parties. Often parents will call to ask if the girls are both available on a certain date. They are planning a party for just a few kids. Our girls are often half the group invited. I thought that this was something that would change as they grew older, but just a couple weeks ago a friend's mom called to check on a date and time. She was only planning to invite four girls.
I talked to the brunette twin about commitments and why we might change this one. We contacted the choir teacher who said she could find other students to use the musical tickets. We called Heather's mom to let her know both girls would be at the party.
I'm always conflicted when this happens. On the one hand I do think that once you make a commitment, you stick with it even when something better comes along. On the other hand, I've heard enough stories about kids' birthday parties where no one shows up that I don't want to contribute to another one. It's a balancing act that I hope we're getting right, even when I'm not sure which way is the right way.