Sunday, August 10, 2014

Privacy sort of

While we were in Wisconsin, the brunette twin struggled with her mixed tween feelings. On the one hand, she wanted to be a little girl. On the other hand she was seeking more privacy. It's a tightrope she has walked as she becomes more and more aware of her changing body. We all stayed in one room, so the only place to find any privacy was in the bathroom.

I was in the bathroom when she decided to change into her bathing suit. I told her she would have to wait a minute. She said, "I'll just change in the room." A few minutes later I came out to see her in her bathing suit. I thought it was strange that she changed there since Daddy was in the room watching TV while he waited.

On our final day the girls were getting ready to hit the pool one last time. Daddy said, "You don't have to change in the closet this time. I'm going to the lobby for a bit."

After Daddy left I said, "You changed in the closet?" She said, "I decided I didn't want to change in front of Daddy. I didn't want to wait for you to get out of the bathroom. I changed in the closet."

It was such a sweet moment that it almost passed without note. Our little girl found a creative way to address her immediate needs. She also found a way to address her growing privacy needs. Daddy recognized her privacy needs and made it easy for her. Without a long, detailed conversation, Daddy and his girl came to agreement about how to live in the same room while we're on vacation.

A few minutes later Daddy came back with some coffee and took his girls to the pool. Everything was normal, even if normal looked a little different. 

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