Monday, June 14, 2010

Separate, but together

The girls start a summer camp today where they change classes.  They each picked three classes they wanted to take and ended up in their first choices.  They are very excited about their classes, except for one thing:  They will be apart most of the time.

We've spent a lot of time deciding whether or not to keep them together in school.  For us, keeping them together for preschool and kindergarten was the right answer.  We wavered a bit about first grade.  The girls go back and forth about whether or not they want to stay together.  In the end, we decided to keep them together.  They weren't certain they wanted to be apart, so we kept them together.

For this camp, they picked their classes based upon their interests.  They knew from the beginning that they wouldn't be together.  At the time they were okay with it.

Today is the first day of class and now they are a bit edgy.  They are making plans to see each other in the hallway between classes.  If one of them is nervous, they will hug between classes.  They are talking about how they will be together in the last class so they will get to see each other then.  They decided to stand next to each other before class and while they are waiting at the pick-up door.  They promise to tell each other what happened in the other classes.  I think the exact words were, "I'll tell you every, single thing that happened."  They discussed it and have a plan. 

Will they be fine?  Of course they will.  Once class starts, they will get caught up in the experience and make new friends.  They will have lots of time after camp to share stories. 

I think it will be good for them to have separate classes.  Their interests are changing and they should follow what they want to do, not just what Sissy wants to do. 

I just like how they work it out by themselves.   They do not ask me what they should do.  They just discuss it and come up with a plan to make sure each twin is okay during the day.  They have touch points where they check-in, even if just in passing.  Their twin bond is strong, which makes me smile.

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