I realized this morning as we were sitting in a restaurant that I have a bad habit that I need to break. If I see two children about the same size, I stare at them to see if they are twins. Of course, some times it is easy. Even I can identify the identical twins. It's the fraternal twins that intrigue me -- for obvious reasons.
Once in a while I'm sure the children are twins. Those parents make it easy by dressing their fraternal twins in identical outfits.
It's the other possibilities that intrigue me. Today I was staring at two little girls who walked in with their father. They were about the same height and wore similar coats. I looked at them as they walked by to see if I could tell if they were twins or just sisters who happen to be about the same height.
I admit I'm fascinated with it. Once in a while someone looks at the girls and says, "How old are your twins?" I always want to ask, "How did you know they are twins?" The brunette twin in a good 1.5 inches taller than her blond twin. One has green eyes; the other has blue eyes. They really don't look like twins. One woman told me, "They act like twins." I didn't think to say, "How?" Now I wish I had. I always want to know what people mean when they say, "They act like twins."
Some times I ask parents. If we're standing in line, I might say, "Oh, they are so cute. How old are they?" It's the easiest way to figure out if my hunch is correct. It's not always possible, though. It's a little hard to strike up a conversation with someone walking by our restaurant table.
I don't know when I started this, but I do realize I have to stop it. Most parents -- me included -- don't like it when you stare at their children. Of course, parents of infants expect it. Even parents of toddlers patiently deal with it. By the time the children are a little older, parents think it's creepy.
I'm one of those parents. I don't like it when people stare at the girls, but now I realize I do the same thing to other children. If I've stared at your children, my apologies.