The girls attended a birthday party Saturday afternoon. When we received the invitation, I asked the birthday girl's Mom, "So, how many children did you invite to the party?" Her response made me realize I need to ask the question more often.
The Mom replied that she invited four children to the party. This means the girls were 1/2 of the invited crowd.
I have to admit I never asked the question before. Most of the parties we've been to have an overflow of children. There are siblings, cousins, friends and others just everywhere. In some cases the parents invite all the girls in the child's class or the child's tumbling class or something along that line.
This family doesn't have a lot of relatives in the area, so I didn't think it would be a huge party. It wasn't at an expensive location where you would expect a small crowd. (I realize it could have been a budget issue, but that wasn't my first thought.) I knew she didn't have many people to invite, but I never thought it would only be four children and the birthday girl.
The implications of inviting the girls are bigger with a small party. We're one invitation, but two children. If the girls don't attend, it's a really, really small party. The Mom said that if the girls couldn't make it, she would move the party to the next weekend if that was better for us.
I told her we'd make the party and thanked her for the invitation.
It's not very often that we don't attend a party, but from now on I will be more mindful of the party crowd. I feel a new responsibility to make sure we don't ruin someone's birthday party.